A 10-minute protocol at the spike
We will not pretend a blocker is a personality. Honest delay, then leave the chair.
A 90-day reset
ResetMate
A 90-day reset for partnered men: structure when the urge hits, another path when you want to lie, dignity after a slip.
Non-religious. Privacy first. No screenshot surveillance. Not medical care.
18+ only. · $10 / month · $100 / year
Trust repair in the relationship — never browsing history
She sees the promise and the streak. She never sees history. Either of you can switch it off.
A 72-hour restart after a slip — not all-or-nothing
One click is not a lost month. Close it, log it, re-enter the container.
This is not a character flaw
It is a trained loop: cue, spike, ritual, shame, cue. Filters get turned off. Religious monitoring makes many men leave. A forum cannot catch the ten minutes that matter.
Protocol preview
10-minute protocol
We will not pretend a blocker is a personality. Honest delay, then leave the chair.
00:00
Name it
Say, out loud or in writing: “This is an urge. It will peak and pass.” Do not argue with it.
01:00
Breathe 4–6
Inhale 4 seconds, exhale 6. Sit upright. Hands off the device. Two minutes.
03:00
Leave the seat
Stand up. Water. Bathroom. Window. The room change is the intervention.
05:00
Delay promise
Write one line: “I will not open anything for ten minutes.” That is the whole contract.
07:00
Do a body task
Push-ups, a cold splash, a short walk, or dishes. Urge energy needs a job.
09:00
Log the trigger
Bored, lonely, angry, tired, or scrolling. No shame note. Just the source.
What she can see
Partner Mode
She sees the promise and the streak. She never sees history. Either of you can switch it off.
- Never shows browsing history
- Both people consent; either can switch it off
First three weeks free
90-day course
Week 1
The loop, not the character
Week 2
Urge surfing
Week 3
Sleep, boredom, loneliness
7-day challenge
7-day challenge
Under 15 minutes a day. Email only — no messaging-app lock-in.
Day 1
Map the loop
Write trigger → urge → click → shame → next trigger. One page. No fixing yet.
Day 2
Delay ten minutes
The next time an urge appears, run the 10-minute protocol before any site.
Day 3
Phone out of the bedroom
Charge it in another room tonight. Sleep is the cheapest relapse prevention.
Day 4
A true sentence
Write one sentence you have not said to your partner. You do not send it today.
Day 5
Draft the talk
Use the partner script. Keep it short: what you are doing, what you are not asking her to police.
Day 6
Live protocol
Practice the urge page once even if you feel fine. Skill before crisis.
Day 7
Choose a container
Keep the free tools, or take membership so the group and course stay with you.
Pricing
$10 per month or $100 per year. 14-day refund on annual plans. Cancel anytime on Today.
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7-day challenge · 3 lessons · urge page
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